The following remarks were prepared by Joanne Beckman for the debate on the Marriage Protection Amendment debate at the March 2011 Durham County Republican Party Convention. The allotted time for debate ended before Joanne had an opportunity to add her voice to the discussion.
Marriage and Kinship Matters
Marriage is primarily a social bond to strengthen kinship, not a means to fulfill desire. So concludes political science professor Dale Kuehne in his book Sex and the iWorld . Sexuality serves extended families, not individuals. Two or three generations of lifelong male-female marriages are stronger. Marriage is not intended to fulfill sex drives, but to select the best set of persons to create a lasting inclusive family! Think of your known blood relatives: We all belong to our kin by marriage. Think of “Ancestry.com”, the legacy of your family tree. Human kinship bonds all of us. Individual needs or losses can be met without unraveling this strong family foundation.
Another excellent book, Marriage and the Public Good: Ten Principles, reports forty years of scholarship on marriage and its recent threats: divorce, cohabitation, illegitimacy, and samesex unions. This research confirms monogamy has lasting societal benefits, unmatched by other sexual relations. This heritage will be lost if marriage is redefined; and an unpredictable, anemic, and costly “brave new world” will fill the vacuum.
Prosperity and freedom also depend on kinship. Most jobs come from “Mom and Pop” small business. The economy and society reward matrimony because they depend on its health. Loyal kinship generates and inherits wealth, reducing poverty. We know that ready students and productive citizens usually come from stable marriages. Religion and law both recognize such bonds because marriage benefits all.
In short, this debate is about the public good. Scholars report that kinship based on lifelong matrimony is the best foundation for society, prosperity, and freedom. Please protect marriage and kinship by voting FOR the Marriage Protection Amendment on May 8th .
© Joanne S. Beckman, PhD, March 14, 2011